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What’s Going On? Should I stay or should I go?
It’s been several weeks since I’ve written or posted anything. So much has gone on since then. I’ve spent a lot of time back and forth in my own head about this blog. The biggest question was, how do I make this more me and turn it into something I actually want to do. I’m not even sure of what the ideal blog is supposed to look like but I feel like this surely isn’t it. This originally started as a direct sales blog and I immediately hated it, it sat here untouched, for months! My direct sales businesses do not define who I am. It felt forced. I suck at sales, honestly, I do. I knew once I tried writing blog posts about bath products that I sucked at selling stuff. I’m not a sales person, I just love sharing my love for things.
If I’m not selling, what am I doing?
What do I do now? Well, I dunno. I have my design and theme the way I want it. I frequently find myself looking for inspiration to actually sit and write something. Guess what? It’s all in my head. I could be washing the dishes and something pops in my head and I say, “Oh! Next blog post”…..But I never follow through. I have so much I want to say, I just don’t force myself to sit and write it out. When I’m scrolling social media and I see someone’s blog post, I look at their cool graphic and think, “Damn, mine sucks. Can I get them to write or make something for me?”
Blogs are supposed to serve a purpose, right? That’s what I keep reading anyway. You aren’t going to come back if I’m not serving you a purpose. In the back of my head I keep hearing the voice of my Blogging Boot-camp facilitator, and I feel like I’m doing this all wrong. Would I like to make money on blogging? Absolutely! Do I want to sell you something via my blog? Not really. My house is built and decorated, I just need fill it with stuff! I have a lot to say and trying to create some type of flow to this is what has me so stalled out.
The truth is…
I don’t know what I’m doing..that’s the cold hard facts. Accepting that has been hard, but I’m here to say I want to change it. I WANT this blog to succeed but I’m not taking the time to nurture it. There is no science to this and if I buy one more bloggers toolkit, I’m kicking my own ass! I recently bought The Genius Bloggers Toolkit, oh about 2 months ago, and I haven’t done anything except log in and look at the massive about of information. Scared is an accurate description of what I felt. I honestly think I am making this way harder on myself than it should be!
As I sit here typing, I keep looking at that damn SEO light and when it goes off green, I panic and go looking for my errors. I think I need to chill the fuck out and just type!
Ask the Pros
Earlier this month I sent a message on Facebook to a pretty popular blogger that I have been following for a while. I sent No Wire Hangers Ever Blog this message:
I LOVE your blog and your posts! I’m from Chicago, living in the burbs and I found your page many years ago in a local group. I’m just starting out with my blog, well it’s been live for almost a year but I let it sit. I just recently created a FB page for it to try to grow my reach. I’m wondering how you launched yours into what it is now. I know I’m a needle in a haystack of bloggers but I want to grow! Just wondering if you could share some insight as to what I should be doing to get there. thanks in advance!
Much to my surprise, she replied! We chatted back and forth a bit and she gave me a list of 8 things to do. Guess what, I have done or am doing the first 6 things! I’m not as bad off as I thought I was. Her #7 & #8 are what I really need to work on.
7. Start a blog calendar. Google it. It’s just a great way to get organized. 8. Start writing everyday, just to get used to it. Not necessarily to publish. Find your voice! This is all I can think of right now! But I’m sure I’ll have more soon.
Guess what I’m sitting here remembering I didn’t do? Google a blog calendar.
The end result
I’m over thinking it, all of it. I’m making it way harder on myself by over analyzing my posts, my graphics, everything. All I need to be doing is writing, everyday. I have so much I want to share with people and if all I’m doing is sharing a piece of me, then I’m okay with that. I must over come my fear of being a shitty blogger. Maybe you are reading this now thinking, “You ARE a shitty blogger, what is the point of this?”. But I’m finding my voice and creating my path.
I’ve realized I am in far too many groups on Facebook created for bloggers. I also realize I don’t spend nearly as much time on Facebook as most of these people do. I hop on and off throughout the day and I miss crazy amounts of shit! There are some people out there with a wealth of knowledge that post non-stop in these groups and I just can’t sit staring at my phone or laptop all day like that. It overwhelms me, I shut it out and walk away, accomplishing nothing.
No more over thinking anything. If something comes to mind, going forward I will either:
A. Write it down or do a voice memo on my phone if I can’t hop on and start a post
B. Immediately get on here and start a post
I’m trying to relieve myself of the anxiety and stress I create when I think about my blog. This is supposed to be my outlet, my place to come and share with all of you. I kinda sorta want to make it my job. Baby steps though. Let me get started on my Genius Bloggers Toolkit and find a blog calendar for 2019 before I hop on that “job” train! Whatever it takes, right?
As always, thanks for being here!
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